The article talks about how young women are more likely to find themselves in this position than ever before. The single parent charity organisation Gingerbread estimates that there are two million lone parents in the UK – that’s parents who are the sole carer of their children and 10% of these are men. That’s not including all those dads who share care of the child with the mum who they’ve split from.
The article also describes how the 17% or so male users of parenting advice website Mumsnet are more likely to be looking for advice on sex and relationships than the average woman user, says the company’s CEO, Justine Roberts. So what’s so difficult for single dads looking for love?
“Think about The Little Mermaid. There’s a girl, and she meets a prince, and they get married and that’s it forever. That’s the template for your average three/four year old,” she says. “They can still be thinking, ‘True love will right itself and Daddy will find Mummy again.’ And the unconscious feeling is ‘You might take Daddy away from me.’”
So what does that mean for the new girlfriend?
Melville-Thomas says, “Don’t blame the children! As adults we have to be a bit grown up about it and give them time to figure it out, and everything you do, you have to do it a bit slower than you would think.”
“The mother wants to know what kind of woman is in the vicinity of my children,” explains Melville-Thomas. “I would say 100% try to develop a relationship with the mother. You want to be modest, respectful, and intelligent about it. Get to know them and show them that you are a reasonable human being,” she says.
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